What is it That You Prize Most?
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Happy Monday friends! I know that the title isn’t the catchiest around, but it comes from my heart. You see, yesterday was the fifth birthday of our dear son Isaac.
For those of you who are newer to Frugal Rules, I encourage you to read my post from last year in which I share about how we lost him after just four brief minutes of life from complications due to Trisomy 18. Not a day goes by that I don’t think of our sweet little one and this time of year he’s heavier on my heart.
As I look at our oldest who recently turned six and the next oldest who turned four just a few weeks ago I know how special turning five is. They’re generally becoming more of their own person in flashes. They’re starting to question things around them, read, and begin to show more in depth parts of what kind of personality they are going to have. Of course, it also means they’re being a bit more rebellious, but that is the fun of parenting. 🙂
All these things make me wonder what kind of person Isaac would’ve been if he would’ve survived. They also bring other questions to my heart, such as:
- Would he be the happy go lucky type like Mrs. Frugal Rules or would he be the ever-questioning troublemaker that I am?
- What would his voice sound like?
- What would be his favorite activities?
- How would he interact with his sister and brothers?
- What kind of man would he grow up to be and what kind of impact would he have on this world?
Just typing this I have tears rolling down my face as I ache to know the answers to those questions. I’d be lying if I said I didn’t want to know and would give anything to experience them first hand. Through my heartache I have confidence that I will get to see him again someday and saying that I look forward to that day is not doing it justice.
What Do You Prize or Cherish?
You may be asking why I share such intimate detail. I share them because day in and day out I talk about money. I love it, I know my fair share about it, and I do all I can to earn more of it. I remember back to how I felt after we lost Isaac and how it rocked our worlds to the nth degree and it caused me to see just how much I have been blessed with. Yet, how am I different five years after the fact?
Yes, I get to work from home and thus get more time with our kids and love that I have that privilege, but how much of that is quality time? I don’t have to look at the oldest ones long to see that they like to play with toy laptops given to them by various relatives to know that they’re basically doing what they see modeled to them. The point being that having a balance between making more money and quality time with our kids is vitally important. Our lives are but a whisper and little will our kids remember how much money I made for them and our family, but it’s the memories they’ll cherish.
If you haven’t guessed it yet, what I prize most is my family and time with them. I look back at how quickly the past five years have passed and know that it’ll only pass quicker as they get older and get involved in more activities. I shudder to think of the day we drop them off to college and think that I don’t really know them as I should because I spent so much of their lives tethered to something electronic. Thus, if that is where my values lie then my actions should align a little more with them.
This is not to say that making money is evil or bad, by any means, but to say that balance and living out what you say is important to you is immensely important. Basically, if I can provide everything they could ever dream of then it’s all for naught if I’ve not given them the most precious commodity there is – time.
So, my friends, I ask you to look at what you prize and how your priorities are lining up with it. In this crazy world it is incredibly easy to allow them to get thrown off track and before you know it time has passed you by. Speaking personally, there are many, many ways to make more money at various levels, but there is nothing you can do to get more time. It is a limited commodity that you can do little to in order to earn any back.
And, as my parting words of wisdom today, I encourage you to find someone near to you and tell them you love them as there is no time like the present.
And for those not in to emotional and heart wrenching posts, come back tomorrow as we’ll be talking about more money savvy things then. 🙂
Photo courtesy of: Nicole S
John is the founder of Frugal Rules, a dad, husband and veteran of the financial services industry whose writing has been featured in Forbes, CNBC, Yahoo Finance and more.
Passionate about helping people learn from his mistakes, John shares financial tools and tips to help you enjoy the freedom that comes from living frugally. One of his favorite tools is Personal Capital , which he used to plan for retirement and keep track of his finances in less than 15 minutes each month.
Another one of John's passions is helping people save $80 per month by axing their expensive cable subscriptions and replacing them with more affordable ones, like Hulu with Live TV.