It’s Not About Your Dream, But How You Reach It
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I was out to dinner with my wife this past weekend, enjoying some time without our son. As a parent, you never know how valuable alone time is until you don’t get it for some time. I haven’t had so much fun at a dinner in a long time. Either way, we were both talking about what’s going on in our lives and our goals, dreams, fears, and all that jazz. It reminded me of a conversation I had with some friends not long ago, but with a different tone.
See, my wife and I have different dreams, but similar goals. That’s why our relationship works. We both strive for the same goals, but dream of different things. When talking with my friends, they all had grandiose dreams, but very few goals. They really didn’t have any steps or road markers to them them to the achievement of those dreams. It got me thinking about how we dream and what some of us do to reach said dreams.
It’s Fun to Dream
Who doesn’t love to dream? I catch myself day-dreaming here and there about this and that. It can range from traveling to Fiji, growing my business, or finally completing all of our house projects. Who knows what it’s going to be. I certainly don’t know! We all dream of different things and I think many of those dreams inspire us.
While it’s fun to dream and everyone should partake in such exercises, what happens when the dream is over?
What separates those who dream from those who act on their dreams?
I would have to say goals. Actionable and attainable goals.
Achieving Dreams is Like Climbing a Ladder
You often hear about climbing the corporate ladder in an effort to earn more money, and a more prestigious position. It takes time to climb a ladder, but we all understand the notion. I think of achieving dreams as the same thing. Let’s call it the dream ladder. Each rung on the ladder is a goal. You can’t step up a rung until you achieve a goal. It’s a simple premise, but some people miss the mark. Let me explain.
When looking at a ladder, you see rungs which are evenly spaced out, but still allowing anyone to step up each one. The problem with some peoples’ dream ladder is that their rungs are not evenly spaced. They try to make large jumps from one rung to another. Let’s say my dream ladder has 20 rungs. They’re close together allowing me to climb each one until my dream becomes a reality.
If another person has the same ladder, but their rungs only total five, it’s going to be much harder for them to get from one to the other. It’s going to be a challenge. This is where some fail and others succeed.
Always Create Actionable/Attainable Goals
No goal is good if you can’t reach it. Yes, we dream big many times, but it doesn’t mean you can’t reach those dreams. You might have to postpone the dream in order to make the goals (rungs) more attainable (closer together). If I wanted to change my entire life around as part of a dream, I wouldn’t set only a few goals.
There are a lot of moving parts to my life, as is the case for most people. Trying to shift everything in few steps is a cause for failure. While I don’t mind failure (in fact, I thrive on it), I also know when failure was due to me overshooting my abilities or just making a simple mistake.
When I asked my friends about their dreams during a conversation, many of them couldn’t answer how they plan on attaining the dream. Were they just dreaming and thinking it wasn’t attainable? I don’t like to dream like that. There are a lot of things going on in my head, but most of them are really things I can reach for and grab. There are probably outliers, which I would never try for, but most things I dream are certainly possible. I also have actionable goals in order to help me get there.
Maybe some people just like to dream, but have no desire to turn their dreams into realities. Maybe they would love to reach them, but they don’t know how to create goals. There is nothing more important in dreaming than setting goals. Those who have big dreams and reach them have used actionable goals to do so.
It’s not rocket science, but the process has to be played out in the right way. Remember, those rungs on your dream ladder need to be spaced appropriately, or you will struggle to climb it. Dream big, set goals, take action on those goals, and achieve your dreams. These are the steps you take!
What does your dream ladder look like? Can you climb it with ease or do you have to jump from rung to rung? Do you dream just to escape or do you want to achieve your dreams one day? If you want to reach your dreams, what are you doing to make that happen?