Reality often isn’t a thing we like to face. Things change and friends move on to other things. In a recent conversation in an online forum, people discussed truths we often need to hear. These are 12 of the most common responses they believe we all need to receive gracefully.
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1. No One Remembers What You Did Last Summer
You know that incident that wakes you up at 3 a.m. and refuses to let you return to sleep? When you were a third grader and accidentally ripped your pants in front of the whole school while performing “Part of Your World.” You know how the audience giggled, and you sobbed to your parents?
Well, no one remembers the embarrassing snippets of your life. And even if they do, everyone experiences uncomfortable times.
2. The Good Old Days Aren’t Coming Back
It’s common for many people to wish for the good ol’ days to return. You may think times were simpler, or things were better, but they don’t typically come back.
One commenter sums this up succinctly, saying “Things are never gonna go back to 10, 20 or more years ago.”
Truer words have never been spoken.
3. Trauma Doesn’t Define You
A forum member voices trauma does not define a life. Resilience does. Someone else responds, “Yes! Some things heal, but we are never the same. That is okay. We survive, we live, and then we thrive. It’s hard, and sometimes those old wounds ache, but to go through it is the only way.”
4. Live Your Life
We’re all here for a short time. We have one life with X amount of time, but in the grand scheme of the world, we are small, little creatures with brief time on this floating rock in space. As morbid as it is, one day we will die, so we must live while we have the chance.
5. You Are Responsible for Your Choices
Who chooses what to do, when, and who to do it with? We do. Circumstances shift our choices and influence our decisions, but ultimately, we are in charge of our lives.
So, if you have to pick between two huge life-altering decisions, you are the one who has to choose.
6. Earth Is Our Home
We can’t keep treating the Earth like it is replaceable. It is the only home we have, and it continues to deteriorate thanks to our mistreatment.
We have to find a way to give back to Earth since, as one respondent claims, “We’re all visiting Earth. Treat it kindly.”
7. People Remember Your Mistakes
We all like to think that our mistakes are forgotten after a few days or weeks. In some instances that’s simply not the case.
“I think it still is good practice to accept that if you make a complete fool of yourself, people will know and remember. Nothing is truly null and void until you and everybody who knew you are long dead. Don’t worry about the opinions of others, but also don’t try to end up being that person who’s known for ‘the incident’ in a given community,” says one person.
They’re not wrong.
8. You Can Go to Therapy, but You Have To Do the Work
“Therapy doesn’t magically fix you; going to therapy doesn’t mean you are instantly better. You have to do the work yourself. No one else can do it for you. If you don’t engage and be honest, you’re just wasting your own time,” one person writes.
9. Marriage Isn’t for Everyone
Not everyone wants to get married, and that’s okay. Some people are perfectly happy living single lives, traveling the world, and focusing on their careers.
In contrast, others settle down with the love of their lives and have ten kids. Those who choose to date but not marry also enjoy their lifestyle.
10. Social Media Is a Highlight Reel
Social media users pick the best photos, videos, and curated captions to share with the world. It is a highlight reel, not reality. Do not spend your life comparing yours to others’ edited clips.
“Social media is not reality. The life you live is real and special. The comparison makes you sick,” a social media user advises.
11. The World Doesn’t Revolve Around You
We all like to think we’re the center of the universe. That’s simply not the case and we all have lives to lead, regardless of the consequences.
One commenter adds this harsh truth they heard from their boss, “My boss told me this just yesterday. He said “the world does not revolve around you and your kids. No you can’t leave early because you don’t have a sitter for your kids. That’s not my problem.”
12. It’s Easy if You Have Money
Money doesn’t buy happiness is an oft-used quote. However, one commenter adds that is typically said by people with means, saying “And I’m like “have you ever suffered from the stress and depression of not being able to eat, barely affording rent or bills? Ending up homeless because you can’t make ends meet? Not knowing any sort of security? That’s a lot of stress and pain that money can 1000% prevent.”
It’s hard to disagree with that.
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I’m John Schmoll, a former stockbroker, MBA-grad, published finance writer, and founder of Frugal Rules.
As a veteran of the financial services industry, I’ve worked as a mutual fund administrator, banker, and stockbroker and was Series 7 and 63-licensed, but I left all that behind in 2012 to help people learn how to manage their money.
My goal is to help you gain the knowledge you need to become financially independent with personally-tested financial tools and money-saving solutions.