Valentine’s Day is coming up quickly everyone. I hope you got your plans ready to go, so you are not sleeping in the doghouse. I don’t know about you, but I feel this holiday is way too commercialized. I still haven’t found out why this holiday is so popular. Do we really need one day dedicated to telling someone that we love them? Shouldn’t we be doing this everyday?
For my wife and myself, we don’t worry much about Valentine’s Day. No, we are not on the cusp of divorce. We just understand that we value our time together each and every day. We don’t need one day to get each other gifts. That’s the main reason why my wife and I don’t really celebrate Valentine’s Day.
The History of Valentine’s Day
I can’t talk about this day without sharing some history about it. I was actually surprised to find out that most people don’t know that this day is named for Saint Valentine or Valentines. While I do find that a little sad, it is understandable. Here in the US, we don’t talk about Saint Valentine much. This holiday is all about love (well, love, candy, flowers, and food!).
As I indicated, the day began as a celebration of one or more Christian saints. They were called Valentinus. The day we celebrate came about from stories regarding Saint Valentine of Rome. The current state of Valentine’s Day didn’t come about until the 18th century in England. It wasn’t focused on romantic love until this point. People used to write handwritten notes, but those have been replaced by cards.
Why We Don’t Celebrate
Ok, that is enough of a brief history. You are not here to learn about the holiday, but I hope it was enlightening :-). You are here to learn why my wife and I don’t really celebrate this holiday. The short answer is that I don’t need an official holiday to tell me when I should show affection to my wife.
Over the past few years, I have been a little more irritated with many of the holidays we celebrate in America. I feel they have been taken over by the retailers. Christmas has been completely overwhelmed with an intense focus on shopping and spending money. Valentine’s Day is no different. It has become the holiday all about flowers, chocolates, cards, and food.
I did a little experiment last year just regarding flowers. I think they have one of the biggest profit margins in history, but only for one day. I checked a local florist a few months before Valentine’s Day and noticed that I could get 12 roses for $39.99.
I then checked closer to Valentine’s Day, about a week out, and that same 12 roses now cost $85.99. Yes, I was not getting anything extra, but I was being charged a whole lot more. There was nothing special about the roses, but the florist could charge it, just because of demand. That experiment alone irritated me about this holiday.
So, you might be asking me why I wouldn’t just jump on board and celebrate Valentine’s Day with my wife. Well, one, I don’t like to conform for the sake of conformity. Two, I like to be spontaneous when it comes to showing my wife that I love her. There isn’t much fun going on when she expects to get some card or dinner on a specified day.
I know that some of you are probably thinking that I am crazy. I know some of you love this day and I don’t think there is anything wrong with that. I am not using this article as a way to say you shouldn’t celebrate the day. The only point I want to get across is that we shouldn’t rely on a certain day to show others that we love them.
If you like Valentine’s Day, what do you have planned? I don’t need to hear the intimate details and remember that this is a family-friendly site! 🙂
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