Why Comparing Myself to Others Keeps Me Motivated
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My mother always taught me to not compare myself to others. If I did, she said, I would never live up to my potential. I used to believe that through and through until recently.
No matter who we are, we will always compare ourselves to others. We are in a competitive society. Everything is about winning. When we see people with more possessions, we want to get more too. Keeping up with the Joneses anyone? Many of us who constantly compare find that we can’t keep up and then get discouraged. I have realized we are comparing the wrong things. One way I stay motivated toward my goals is to compare myself to others. I just do it in just a few specific areas.
I’m Comparing myself to you, but i Don’t Want Your Life
First things first, I don’t compare my life with the lives of others. I don’t want their lives. I am fond of what I have. Many people I talk to end up comparing the entire picture of someone and then find out they can’t compete. Do you remember how it felt when you lost a game because you weren’t better than the other team? I know quite a few people who feel they fail when they can’t keep up with someone else.
I used to try to keep up with the Joneses, but that just got me into massive debt. It also caused me to have constant stress and worry, along with the feeling of failure. I was trying to keep up with the entire fictional picture of the Joneses. I wanted their life. When I couldn’t have it, I was discouraged. After some time, I realized I was comparing the wrong things. I wanted their lifestyle, but I really just should have used their success as motivation to reach my own goals.
Your Success is My Motivation
I have a handful of motivations in my life. My wife and son are huge motivations for me. They are the reason I work so hard to make sure we have financial security. They are not my only motivation though. I have goals and dreams for myself.
I am an entrepreneur at heart. Both of my parents are entrepreneurs and I got bit by the bug as well. I have been running businesses since I was a teen. I love it and sometimes entrepreneurship loves me back. Other times it doesn’t. One thing I learned over the years is to compare myself to other successful businesses. I do this with my business and my blog. What makes these businesses/blogs successful? How can I achieve success and what does success mean to me?
Did you get that last part? What does success mean to you? That is really the question. While we can all say we want to be successful, what is that? What makes you successful? When you compare yourself to others, you should never try to reach their level. That is almost unattainable. It is also the wrong way of looking at things.
You need to find out what they did to reach their success and then work on ways you can reach yours. What makes some blogs bigger than others? How can you take their success and channel it into your own blog? You have to break down their accomplishments. It is the same for everything, no matter if you are blogging, running a business, or paying off debt.
The reason I started my blog was to share how I achieved my debt payoff success. I don’t want people following exactly in my footsteps because I realize they need to have their own goals and their own definitions of success. If I thought I succeeded when I paid off $10,000, I don’t expect someone else to use that as their success.
So, when it comes down to it, don’t be afraid to compare yourself to others. I think it creates a natural competition within yourself. The only difference is when you compare yourself, don’t try to mimic their success. Come up with your own goals and what success means to you. You just need to use their journey as a blueprint for crafting your own. I will always use the success of others as motivation for myself, but I won’t take their same path. I will forge my own!
What motivates you in life and work? What blogs or businesses do you admire? Have you ever caught yourself trying to keep up with the Joneses of the entrepreneurial world?
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